We are the ones who catch our own reflection and skip past “not bad” straight into “I’d ruin my own life for her.”
You entered a portal and didn't even realize it. One where you go from self love to self obsessed. Where you become the version of you who can’t stop thinking of yourself.
this is the portal. The transformation from self love to self obsession.
I used to feel wrong for picking myself apart.
I would think, Why do I do this? I shouldn’t be. I see other women who have bigger arms or bigger stomachs and I think they’re so sexy… so why do I still notice my own in the mirror?
I felt like a failure. Like a fraud after years of being a boudoir photographer.
And then I had my fifth baby, and when she was three months old, I went on an all women’s retreat in Costa Rica where I was surrounded by women who were… just themselves.
“Normal” looking women who were GORGEOUSLY themselves.
Your boudoir photographer
Meet Kara Mia Dunn
The epitome of "self-love".
As the week went on, one after another, I would hear the women quietly admit what they were worried about.
“I’ve gained 65 pounds and haven’t lost it yet, and I’m still breastfeeding…”
“This bikini… my tummy hangs out.”
And that’s when I realized…
Self-love had become another lie.
Now it wasn’t enough to have the “right” body.
We also had to love every inch of it, every second of every day, with no room for messy, human thoughts.
That’s when it hit me.
We have outgrown self-love.
It is time for Self Obsession.
To be self-obsessed means you can notice those things, not fully love every single part of yourself, and know none of it takes away from your worth, your beauty, or your power.
Self obsession isn’t just something you feel.
It’s something you practice.
It’s obsessive actions.
It doesn’t ask for perfection.
It doesn’t ask you to never pick yourself apart.
It asks…
Can you still see the softness on your arms and your belly and still desire yourself when you look in the mirror?
Self-love said you are enough.
another impossible standard women were expected to achieve.
& I’m not interested in enough.
I’m interested in women becoming undeniable to themselves.
That’s why I do this work.
When women step in front of my camera, I’m not documenting what they look like. I’m changing the relationship they’ll have with themselves long after the photos are taken.
Because this has never been about pictures.
It’s about ending the war women have been taught to wage against themselves.
It’s about replacing self-improvement with self-devotion.
It’s about building a generation of women whose first gaze belongs to themselves.
Women who stop asking for permission.
Women who stop apologizing for wanting more and more.
Women who become the greatest love story of their own lives.
We used to call our wanting selfish.
Now we call it worship.
I wasn’t put here to make women more acceptable. I was put here to make them impossible to abandon.
Kara
You need a room safe enough to want yourself in. Comfort, trust, and safety always come first at Déjà Revél. Although we're all about challenging you and pushing you out of your immediate comfort zone, we would never put you in a place of unease. You’re in full control. Your images are NEVER shared without your consent. This is meant to be life-changing, but also fun and carefree. Our culture is about safety, inclusion, and preserving you artfully as you are - whoever you are.
You Don't Need Permission.
When we say we've got you, we've got you — the glam, the styling, the lingerie, the nerves, the “holy sh*t I didn't know I was so hot.” We built every second of this experience so the only thing required of you is to show up. No mood board. No prep. Nothing to decide. You walk in asking to be photographed. You walk out asking yourself how much longer you can look at your own reflection.
we don't just take photos. we open a threshold.
Plenty of studios will wait for you to lose the ten pounds, drop the baby weight, finish the divorce, find your
confidence first. We've never photographed perfection, and we're sure as hell not starting with you. Every title you've worn —
wife, mother, employee, partner — took a piece of you and never once asked for your name back. We're not
photographing who you used to be or who you're supposed to become next. We're photographing the body you're
standing in right now. It was never the problem. It's the whole point.
your body isn't a problem waiting to be fixed
The industry wants to sit you down and teach you to love yourself. I'm not interested in “enough” — self love was
always the thing we handed women so they'd stop asking for more. In our studio, we don't build gratitude. We
build obsession — the kind that makes you catch your own reflection and forget what you walked into the room
for. You don't need to be talked into loving yourself. You need to be introduced to the woman who's already dangerous.
